The Future of Grieving Futures

Back in 2010 or so, I wrote a book I call Grieving Futures detailing the slow collapse of my family and my emergence from that as an adult orphan. It’s a painful book and in retrospect I’d write it very differently, if I were writing it today. But it is...

tiny dancer

I’m sitting here at my desk, my feet nearly asleep from sitting here most of the day. Which is every day, really. I only feel safe here at the desk, under the pretence of doing something. I like to narrow down the space I take up to thin slices, even in an apartment...
Stranger Things, stranger theories

Stranger Things, stranger theories

[major spoilers for the TV show Stranger Things below. don’t say I didn’t warn you!] So okay, here’s my response to a lot of fan theories circulating. I have to admit I’m disappointed with the meta about this show — maybe I’m used...

{195} The Power of NO

As I get older, I think one of the most subversive acts of resistance a woman of any age can do is say “NO.” It’s personal and political. I long ago said “no” to becoming a mother, and am judged by many the lesser for it; women saying...

{187} New Year Advent Day 4 (December 28th)

Determination: the act of deciding definitely and firmly After days of grief and courage, I think the logical follow up is determination. Determination is different from planning something specific, it the emotion at the core of the act of deciding something. Whether...